Hair today. Gone May 5th.

I wish I'd been a fly on the wall on the final day of his first round of chemo, when the Chemo Nurse warned The Ex that his hair would fall out soon -- and not just the hair on his head; all his hair, everywhere. Here a clump, there a clump, everywhere! His hair! There. And There. And There. And there.

Suddenly, he remembered The Cruise. Elegant, top-tiered suite with a balcony. Formal dinners.

Goodbye Radiation! Hello Chemo!

When last you read of the adventures of The Ex, he was wrangling with dates for Chemo. He wants Chemo, he thinks, only he is very apprehensive about how he will feel when it's time for his cruise to the Bahamas May 3-7.

So, to all our friends and supporters out there, we could sure use your prayers for smooth sailing through the Chemo treatments. The first one will be all day tomorrow.

"Well! Does he want chemo? Or does he want Hospice?"

... the receptionist snipped at me as we were trying to nail down a schedule for his chemo.

Next week isn't good, I have to be away for work and our son is filling-in on Dad duty. Tomorrow is too soon for an all day gig. We had no idea chemo took all day!

The Ex is scared, he says, of sitting all day with a needle in his arm. Nobody warned us

Hospice? Maybe later. Chemo! Here we come!

The Ex has rallied once again! When he first woke up this morning and he realized he felt pretty good, he said he jumped out of bed, showered and dressed, hurriedly beginning his workday before his energy left him for the day. (This is a milestone. He is accepting the condition and making efforts to adapt and overcome).

His inventory, which seemed like such drudgery yesterday went, smoothly and quickly. I hardly ever hear the "ow, Ow, OW, OWWWWs" that used to rip out my helpless heart. There is great pain in watching pain in others that we cannot do anything about. It's exhausting!

Radiation Therapy - Recovery Weekend

Patient to Doc: "Hey Doc! It hurts when I do this."
Doc to Patient: "Don't do that!"

Finally, we don't have to do that anymore.

Radiation Therapy - Day Fifteen

Radiation happened today without much hooplah, except inside my heart. We have a followup appointment there, and don't know why.

I'm so glad we got the cruise booked yesterday. He wouldn't have been up to it today. And rooms and rates might be gone tomorrow.

Radiation Treatment - Day Fourteen

When you go for radiation, you have to be scanned and positioned just so. Sometimes it takes some futzing. Just like life.

Today we met with our oncologist and discussed additional treatment after radiation. Our goals: 1st) cruise May 3-7, 2nd) son's 21st birthday, mid June; 3rd) Jan 2009 when he can increase life insurance to millions.

The best part of today was booking that cruise for The Ex, our son, and a beloved family friend. And we didn't book just a gloomy room with no view. Noooooo!

Radiation Treatment - Day Thirteen

He began the day with enough energy to sing "... I'm radeeeeeoooooooACTIVE!" He felt well enough to do a service call first. He still didn't feel like eating, but he sure LOOKS good. Trim. A little pale, maybe, or sometimes he looks flushed.

We went to treatment on schedule, without event, except The Ex was unusually grumpy and tired, despite his little burst of humor early in the morning.

This afternoon, the exhausted Ex returned to work to perform another call. Ever the dedicated employee. It makes me proud when he wears his 20 years of service shirts (it's really been 22, but they don't make 22 year service shirts).

When we first met, he was a certified Honda motorcycle technician, but when that got hard for one of his age (30-something), I encouraged him to answer an ad from an office machines place.

Fixit people are fixit people. I knew he could learn to fix something besides motorcyles, even when he didn't. Guess my idea worked out ok, because he's still doing that work today, SCLC or not. He is a top-performing technician. One of the very best.

While he was away, I decided today was the day to say goodbye to our dear cat, who has been "wasting" for a couple weeks now. She wouldn't eat, barely drank. I just couldn't watch it any longer, so I called a friend to take me and beloved kitty to the vet to be put down.

We'd taken her to the vet last weekend and had orders to force feed her from a 6 ml syringe 10x per day. Antibiotics 2x per day, just in case she had a liver infection instead of liver cancer. She didn't care much for that either.

We just couldn't do it -- forcing food down her throat. We tried for a couple days, but she just wasn't having it, and we felt it might be hurting her more than just leaving her alone. But, today I was selfish. I just couldn't handle it any more. Poor little kitty, laying almost lifeless, staring off into nothingness. Waiting to die. Just what we need right now.

Today was the day to say goodbye to kitty.

Some dear friends helped us, even dug the grave and said the prayer, and brought a cool wrought iron cross to mark the grave. The Ex participated as much as he could, but we were both weepy today, and that was hard with friends visiting... even though they are caring, loving, DEAR friends.

So, while there is much going on in my mind to write about tonight, I feel I must keep it short, as the family -- especially the dog -- is mourning. I need to be in the livingroom with The Ex and the dog.

When I left for the vet this afternoon, The Ex whispered to our poor, sick kitty of 10 years, "Goodbye, little kitty. I'll see you again real soon."

Too sad.

More tomorrow. Hopefully, a better day.